After having spent the last 5 weeks of #F3TheStand understanding The Masculine Mandate, this week we dove into Living our Mandate. First stop: Marriage. Actually the first few stops will be on marriage…today the focus of the 8 Pax in attendance was on God’s design for marriage.
The Thang and The Moleskin
Throughout creation, God was pleased with what He saw, declaring 7 times that it was either “good” or “very good”. But in Genesis 2:18, He declares “It is NOT good that man should be alone.” And after Adam named all the animals, Genesis 2:20 states “But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.” Men are made not to stand in isolation but in need of companionship. In steps Eve.
The Wonder and The Challenge
Woman was created as a suitable helper for man and for essential oneness with man. But with this wonder comes a challenge. Women are different…and we don’t understand them. And thus, marriage relationships are not only compelling and interesting but also are demanding. Love is not meant to be easy, which is why marriages need agape love. Not a love that is self-focused or circumstantial but a love that gives.
How to Love
To look into agape love, we delved into Ephesians 5. To demonstrate this kind of love to our wives, we are told in verse 25 to “love as Christ loved the church”. This is a sacrificial, selective and elective love to lead in a way that promotes our wives spiritual growth and sanctification. In verse 28, we are told to “love as we love our own bodies”. This means “holding fast” and caring for our wives.
DISCLAIMER: YHC is currently separated. The many reasons may seem complex. But the underlying truth is simple: YHC became complacent and acquiesced on wrong turns…did not love and lead for her sanctification. For YHC, this chapter was a complete #smokefest.
Rise Up. Hold Fast.